July 2017 Ask Kelley

Dear Kelley,

I am a survivor of suicide loss.  My daughter died by suicide 10 years ago.  She was 24 years old and she was an outstanding young woman.  She was an amazing daughter, friend, niece, and an accomplished writer.  Her light was very bright and we had no idea she was even struggling with depression.  I didn’t see the warning signs and I wonder to this day, if I had what I would have done.  As you can imagine, I had a lot of guilt.  However, I have done a lot of healing and I’m in a much better place thanks to the help of some outstanding organizations and support groups.  I guess I’m writing to you, not with a question, but in remembrance of all those who have died by suicide.  You are not forgotten.  May we all be a light for people in their dark times. 

Thank you Kelley,

Martha

Dear Martha,

Thank you for sharing your experience in remembrance of all those who have died by suicide.  Suicide remains one of the most complex public health issues facing our communities today.  I’m so glad to hear you were able to access resources that were helpful following your loss.  Survivors of suicide loss can often feel isolated and alone.  It can be very difficult to process that grief.  As you know, it is important for survivors of suicide loss to reach out for help.  Attending support groups, talking to a professional grief counselor, seeking a licensed mental health professional, or connecting with people you trust can be very beneficial following the suicide of a loved one.  The Suicide Prevention Resource Center and National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI, NH) offer excellent resources a well.   Thank you again for bringing awareness to such an important issue Martha. 

If you or someone know is a risk of suicide, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). The lifeline is free and confidential.  Remember, you are not alone and with help comes hope. 

Sincerely,

Kelley