To The Daily Sun,
Kudos to the Daily Sun and reporter Michael Kitch. They responded to my letter criticizing their reporting of a recent council meeting. Isn't it wonderful to have a paper that will print critical letters about them and also a personal response from reporter Kitch.
They would probably hate the reference, but they are "fair and balanced."
Councilor Ward 4, Laconia
Last Updated on Tuesday, 21 October 2014 07:00
To The Daily Sun,
My name is Jim Spiller. I am the father-in-law of Kalem Beane, who recently passed unexpectedly.
My wife Susan and I, our daughter Megan, and Kalem's family want to take this opportunity to thank all in the community for your support through this difficult time for our daughter, Megan, and for Kalem's family. As you might imagine, we are all overcome with grief, in shock and disbelief at our loss, and appreciate you allowing us to privately bear our grief as we each choose.
Thank you to the many of you who assisted in all the personal searches, made and distributed signs, and helped get the word out through social media. Your efforts did not go unnoticed, no matter how small you feel your efforts might have been, or how unimportant you feel those efforts were. We feel each effort was immense, because every little bit helped. It was comforting to the family to feel your love, and you are loved in return.
Thank you to Gail Ober at The Laconia Daily Sun, for her compassion and genuine concern, and help in keeping Kalem's disappearance in the public eye. A heartfelt thank you to the authorities, the Laconia Police Department, in particular Capt. Matthew Canfield and Chief Christopher Adams, and especially the good men and women of N.H. Fish & Game whose assistance was so important in bringing Kalem home to us. And lastly, thank you to the fine professionals at Wilkinson-Beane Funeral Home as we prepare to say our private good-bye to Kalem. Though it was not the outcome we hoped for, we are able to begin the long and difficult process of healing.
To those of you who find yourself in Kalem's position, severe depression is an illness, please seek help immediately and aggressively, do not take "no" for an answer. I myself struggle with and have struggled with depression my whole life. I call this my public coming out, though most close to me are aware. To families and friends of those with depression, please take that journey with them in a spirit of compassion and love. But again, do not take "no" for an answer, when seeking help. It is sad that in recent years cutbacks to mental health programs seem to be passed on a routine basis by our leaders. I find this to be irresponsible and downright deadly. I am not blaming the system for Kalem's passing. How a better system might have saved him we will never know. I am simply trying to raise awareness for the next individual and their family whose darkness overwhelms them so utterly and completely. If there is one thing I cannot say enough, "do not take 'no' for an answer!"
You are you missing one's advocate. Do not take "no" for answer, from the media, authorities, or anyone else who chooses to stand in the way of you finding your loved one. Get mad if you want. You're entitled. It shouldn't be that way. But sadly for now it is the truth of how it is. And if that's what it takes to bring your loved one home, then do it at any cost.
We are your brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, neighbors, co-workers, bosses, business owners, the homeless on the street corner, the low income, the wealthy, the ministers in your churches, your elected officials. I firmly believe everyone knows someone battling this insidious disease that knows no political, monetary or social boundaries, but you may not be aware we have it. Oh, and you can't "catch it" so a heartfelt hug is okay, and often just what we need at that moment. You can't catch it by sitting and listening to someone who's in pain. You can't catch it by talking about it, and talking about this disease in its many forms needs to happen.
I was talking to a friend recently, and we agreed that it seems "compassion" is becoming so scarce today. And I freely admit to having lost my compassion on occasion. We all need to look in the mirror more often and ask not what I can do to "get ahead" in this world, more this, more that. Instead, look yourself in the eye and ask what can I do to help my neighbor, my friend, my family member or even a stranger that is struggling.
I am not a religious person, so I am not asking in that light, but if you are religious, most teach humility and compassion for the sick and less fortunate in their core values. I simply believe it is the decent thing to do, it is part of our evolutionary growth as a species. There are many days when I watch the news and read the letters to the editor here and elsewhere it seems we are devolving as a species, very sad.
The senseless, endless and petty bickering over taxes, race, religion, sexual orientation, build this or not, or providing services or not, it is indeed a sad commentary on the state of our species and our society.
For those of you who govern and somehow feel that cutting services to those of our society who are most vulnerable and most in need and get away with blaming those same people "Shame on you, I cannot fathom how you sleep at night!"
I can only hope that nobody else ever has to experience the loss of someone as we are with Kalem, it is truly a journey no one should have to take.
Last Updated on Tuesday, 21 October 2014 06:55
To The Daily Sun,
This is in response to George Maloof's treatise on "how the GOP has succumbed to the ideology of Ayn Rand" in the Oct. 16 edition of the Sun.
George, I may just as easily make the case that the Democrat Party as I knew it in my youth has been suborned by the followers of Karl Marx and Vladimir Lenin. The actions taken by Democrats at all levels over the past five or six decades and the deconstruction and rewriting of American history by "progressive" academics to make it seem that America is the source of all the world's ills is right out of "Das Kapital" and "The Communist Manifesto." The push to make everyone except the nomenklatura slaves to The State, to make them less human and nothing more than cogs in an authoritarian state has been slowly coming to fruition.
While many of the people who have been working toward this goal won't call themselves Marxists or communists, or worse, don't even realize that's what they've become, they seem perfectly fine with the idea, not understanding that once the downfall of America is completed, they will become redundant and will join the ranks of "cogs."
Ayn Rand warned of the dangers of this backhanded push toward Karl Marx's "dream." She had lived under socialism and saw it for what it was: a jealous, capricious, and psychopathic god who would brook no dissent, did not have the best interests of the citizens at heart, and had no problems killing millions to 'cleanse' the land of dissenters. She saw the creeping spread of government control over all aspects of our lives here in the U.S. as a danger and tried to express those dangers in books like "The Fountainhead" and "Atlas Shrugged."
All that aside, these are some of things I have learned from direct observation during my decades on this planet:
— Government isn't the answer to all our problems. More often than not, it is the cause.
— Government, particularly at the national level, isn't competent to deal with regional issues.
— Government at the national level has made the mistake of forcing one-size-fits-all solutions to problems that exist in only one area of the nation or in one segment of our society, usually to the detriment of far more people than it's trying to help.
— Government is an inertia-laden monster, inefficient, and quite often working at cross-purposes with itself.
— Government at the national and state level becomes beholden to cronies and lobbyists, regardless of the parties in power. The left always likes to decry the influence of the Koch brothers, but conveniently ignores the even greater influence of George Soros — a convicted felon and self-proclaimed socialist — and Tom Steyer, each who have spent many times the amount of money to push candidates and legislation that benefits them. The Democrats are merely their errand boys. At least the Koch brothers have created thousands of jobs and have supported candidates in both parties. That can't be said for either Soros or Steyer.
— Whenever someone makes the claim "The government simply MUST do 'X'!" it is usually a sign that it's something the government shouldn't do at all, or should at least take the time to look closely at it and then decide some time later if it should do anything at all.
— Government, particularly at the national level, is no smarter or wiser than the average American. So what makes people, specifically progressives, think that government is competent enough or wise enough to run anyone else's lives? The people in government have a tough enough time running their own.
— Government, at all levels, usually makes the mistake of ignoring human nature and at times tries to change it. By doing so, it will always fail. Then the law of unintended consequences comes into play, usually to the detriment of the people.
I could go on ad nauseum, but I doubt that any of it would change your mind or entice you to explore your own beliefs, away from like-minded folk who will merely inhibit your ability to question those beliefs and look at them dispassionately and with logic.
Dale Channing Eddy
Last Updated on Tuesday, 21 October 2014 06:48
To The Daily Sun,
Full disclosure: I work at the Belknap County Nursing Home. I love my job and I love our residents. Our residents are our family members — everyone in Belknap County knows someone who either lives here or has lived here.
Despite our love for our jobs, it has stopped being fun. It stopped being fun when Frank Tilton told the county commissioners to lay people off rather than fund our health insurance. Yes, the same Frank Tilton who collected a public paycheck for years and now gets a taxpayer funded pension.
In less than two weeks, unless Tilton allows the funding of our health insurance, the county will run out of money to pay for it. My family will no longer be able to get health care unless we pay for the complete amount — for my family, that means paying $120 per week. Forget that I haven't had a raise in three years, we simply can't afford that.
The residents and workers at the Nursing Home, along with all the residents in the county, deserve better than what Frank Tilton provides his constituents so far. I urge at to consider that at the polls in November.
Last Updated on Tuesday, 21 October 2014 06:43
To The Daily Sun,
Alice and I were so pleased to hear that Kevin Maes of Rumney had thrown his hat into the ring for Grafton County District 6 State Representative to the state Legislature. He is just the kind of thoughtful, hard-working and forward-thinking person we need to represent us in the House.
For 30 years Kevin has served his community and the region in one capacity or another, as a selectman, a police officer, a teacher and an active volunteer in many other local efforts.
Kevin has strongly expressed his desire to "return a sense of civility to government."
If you have been as disheartened as Alice and I have about the partisan bickering and the poisonous atmosphere that has developed at all levels of government between the parties, then you will be as happy as we were to hear that Kevin wants to reach across the aisle and work to bring all parties together in the best interest of everyone in our beloved state.
Kevin's vote will not be owned by anyone but the people of District 6. He will vote his conscience in the best interest of his district and based on his own solid, good judgment — judgment that he has proven to us in three decades of public service. No political party, no lobbyist, no special interest will unduly influence his vote.
Kevin will pay attention to the things that matter in our day-to-day lives. His lifelong commitment to public education, his promise to work to develop a strong economy by encouraging diversity, innovation and entrepreneurship in the private sector. His experience in budgetary matters, youth sports, and local law enforcement and public safety present a well-rounded person with a public spirit. I am proud to call him my friend and I hope to call him my state representative.
The representative districts in New Hampshire tend to be a little confusing. District 6 includes the towns of Rumney, Ellsworth, Thornton, Orange and Groton.
If you live in any of these towns, please vote for Kevin Maes on Nov. 4.
Wayne D. King
Last Updated on Monday, 20 October 2014 09:11