To The Daily Sun,
This is the 14th of my reports to the voters of Hill and Franklin on what is happening in Concord. I am new to the House of Representatives this year but I am frankly dismayed at the lack of civility and decorum. I come from a family and military background where "Sir" and "Mister" were just accepted as the right way to greet a person. I come from a family where we ate dinner together, played ball on Saturdays, and went to Church on Sundays. We spoke to one another with respect and although we did not always agree, we entertained the opinions of each other. It was what you did to show respect for the family, for others and for society. Our State House has lost this respect for itself and others and it has hurt the way we are perceived by you the citizen. I've thought long and hard about why this is and my conclusion falls back on one thing. The family.
Somewhere we seem to have lost the sense of family and replaced that with entitlement. This refocus led to looking at our individual needs and blaming someone else for our problems. We fail to accept the responsibility for our choices. Today, some adults behave like a child stomping their feet and screaming until they get their way. We recently had incidents in the House that made the newspapers. House members used the excuse that even thought they were rude and crude in their actions, you and I had to accept their behavior. After all, if it wasn't for somebody else with the opposing opinion the world would be so much easier. This is shocking to me and I believe those individuals learned this behavior at home.
When parents allow their children to have what they want when they want and avoid the consequences of their choices, why should we expect these children to grow up and conduct themselves any differently in public. When the parents take them to a soccer game rather than church on Sunday why should be expect them to grow up and have reverence for something bigger than their own desires. When I go to a restaurant I am appalled to see a family of four with their noses in their smartphones rather than engaging in a family discussion and developing those relationships. The State House is just a microcosm of our society. However, the State House should be a place where decorum is exhibited. The State House should be where our next generations observe how to have different opinions join together to achieve a conclusion that benefits all and how to disagree with respect and dignity. New Hampshire, we can do better!
This week in my House Committee, a crucial vote was lost when we did not pass a fetal homicide bill in committee. This is a euphemism for killing a baby in the womb by other than an abortion. I was terribly disappointed when two people from my party (whose platform says we respect life) voted to allow the murder of babies in the womb. My response was not a tweet describing these representatives as horrible people or that I felt "homicidal" about it. No, I vowed to continue to try to convince them in a civil way that what they believe is wrong.
We need to find a way in the House to have differences without making mortal enemies. Opponents yes ... not enemies. Spirited disagreement of course, but with respect. It will be difficult. We have at least two generations that did not learn from their parents that issues can be resolved without throwing temper tantrums.
NH State Representative
Franklin and Hill
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