The more smitten a man is, the more likely he won't run off

To The Daily Sun,

We know why women like the 50 shades books and movie. Most women want to hang around with men. Smart women realize the time will come when she's got the flu, she's pregnant out to here, and her kids are leaking at both ends.

The more smitten her man is, the more strongly he's drawn to her, the more likely he'll help her through it instead of running off.

It's understandable that Ana would belong to Christian Gray — he's a very strong man who's utterly taken with her. Every woman dreams of a man wanting her that much.

It takes three volumes to get to the falsehood — there's little chance he'd marry her. He rules her; she does whatever he wants. What will marriage give him that he doesn't have?

What'll happen when she gets tired of being spanked? If they aren't married, the worst she can do is stop taking pills and tag him for child support for 18 years. If they're married, she can walk out for any reason or no reason, grab part of his fortune, and collect alimony the rest of her life. Why would any sensible billionaire risk that?

We all know couples who got married after living together for months or years, but we know a lot more unmarried couples. It's not likely he'd marry Ana.

What should Ana do when she realizes he's smitten? She should know that a smitten man is driven to have sex with her. If she wants marriage, she must tell him, gently but firmly, "Not unless you marry me. I'm not a toy. I want a man to stay with me. I don't want a man to play with me and throw me away when he's tired of me."

That'll blow his mind; she'll have to explain: "I want to get married. I plan to be God's treasure for my husband. If that's not you, we can part friends, no harm, no foul. You're a very nice guy. I could easily fall in love you. If my heart belongs to you and you won't marry me, I'll be in a world of hurt."

If a man wants a woman badly and he can't have her without opening his heart to her and marrying her, but she convinces him that if he marries her, she'll open herself to him, he'll marry her.

"I'm not saying you have to agree to marry before we date, but I want you to agree that our goal is deciding whether you and I will get married. I expect to belong to my husband, but I want him to belong to me. A woman can give a man a taste of the joys of heaven if he treats her as his treasure. I have to decide whether I want to be your treasure and you have to decide whether you want to belong to me by opening your heart to me. That's how we'll bless each other forever. As my husband, you can have me whenever you want me, but without marriage, you can't have me at all."

Any man who's attracted to a woman who tells him she wants to be God's treasure for her husband would be a fool not to consider marrying her. Ana gave herself to Christian without conditions, why would he want to belong to her?

Bill Taylor

New Hampton

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Year Round Library has become staple for our Gilmanton family

To The Daily Sun,

We just wanted to voice our support for the Gilmanton Year Round Library.

What I would like to focus on is how our family and many like ours in town have greatly benefited from the Year Round library. This library has been a real treat to our family and we have used it for books, movies, and even shared in the different fun events that the library hosts. Just last weekend our seventh-grade daughter finished her book Friday night and wanted the second in the series. Did we mention the fact that we love that our kids love to read ... books ... actual, turn-the-pages books? Saturday morning we drove to the library and got her the book. Today our second-grader watched a movie there after school with some of his friends. The library is a comfortable, safe environment for our kids. The hours are set, they are year round, and they are convenient.

We feel many times when we go to the library it's like old home day for a young family like ours. It is so awesome to see other families we know, who are from our community, enjoying this resource.

The Year Round Library has become a staple for our family and we don't want to keep this gem we have found, a secret or to ever see it close.

The Warren Family

Mark, Audra, Ethan, Abby & Elliot


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Bev Lapham is very willing to listen to all sides of any issue

To The Daily Sun,

Bev Lapham will be an excellent addition to the Selectboard in Meredith. Bev moved to Meredith 27 years ago and has been committed to making this a community we can all be proud of.

Prior to moving to Meredith, he had a 23-year career in banking, starting at Citicorp of New York and serving as executive vice president at banks in Connecticut and upstate New York. After moving to Meredith, Bev owned and ran a local business, Village Canvas, for 25 years before his son took over the business. He has been a member of Meredith Rotary Club for 25 years and served as President from 2012 to 2013. He is also treasurer and trustee of the Union Church on Meredith Neck and a board member of the Greater Meredith Program.

Bev loves the town of Meredith and is always proud of what our town government, service organizations, non-profit organizations and superb volunteer force have accomplished. He has worked with many of the dedicated town employees, business owners and residents on many civic projects including: construction of the lakeside walkway connecting Scenic and Hesky Parks, the Community Center garden, creation of the pocket park, Courtyard on Main Street as Co-chairman, and, currently, the GMP Meredith Sculpture Walk Committee as chairman.

Personally, we have always found Bev Lapham to be willing to listen to all sides of any issue. While serving on the Sculpture Walk Committee, I have been able to observe his leadership skills and his willingness to consider all options. Bev has promised that he will bring his integrity, plus a respectful and cooperative attitude to the office of selectman.

We respectfully request that you vote for Bev Lapham as a member of the Meredith Selectboard in the coming election.

Fred & Linda Huntress



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Elderly population of Belknap County is backbone of taxpayers

To The Daily Sun,

The City Council had the pleasure of having state representatives of our county delegation as well as the newly elected county commissioners at our Monday night meeting. The information gleaned regarding County Nursing Home problems was just one of many subjects but one that needs to be brought to the attention of all who live in the Belknap County jurisdiction and particularly taxpayers of Laconia because any loss from the state or federal funds means we will have to come up with the money. Remember, the county's budget is partially (20 percent) paid for by you the taxpayers of Laconia. The Daily Sun also printed an article on Saturday, February 21,with information from the nursing home director that also indicates the funding problems the county nursing home is facing.
What it boils down to is losing $2.5 million in revenues. This is caused by the state cutting its support, which then means the federal revenue share is also cut. You don't get the federal funds if you don't get the state funds.
Also, the governor says the Department of Health & Human Services is facing a $58 million deficit for fiscal year 2015 and so $7 million in appropriated nursing home support will be cut.
My concern goes beyond funds being cut, to the continued cutting of funds to the elderly needs of the community. The federal government cut Medicare by billions to fund Obamacare and now the state is cutting money that is owed to the county nursing homes and again by doing this removing the federal share.
The Daily Sun recently published an article on the household income in Laconia and how it has fallen. While the figures are a couple of years back, the article pointed out that the age of the primary taxpayers in the under 30 age group dropped by 25 percent, the 30 to 40 age group declined by 25 percent, the 45 to 60 age group remained stable, but the 60 and over age group climbed by 15 percent.
What does that tell you?
We all know that the elderly population in Belknap County and particularly in Laconia has grown substantially and they represent the backbone of taxpayers, yet, when money is needed for non-paying tax groups of people, where does the government cut services or revenues? The elderly.
We are facing a huge challenge to deal with the aging population and how they will live out their final years. We should be getting ready for this mass of people who will be looking for solutions to live out their lives and have the needed resources to take care of them. The county should be looking to improving and expanding county home facility.
I do have other thoughts on county and state budget problems but this piece is meant to stand alone.
Councilor Brenda Baer

Ward 4 - Laconia

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Difficult to see the dollars & sense of the Belmont Mill article

To The Daily Sun,

We, the hard-working residents of Belmont, are proud of our history, natural resources and educational opportunities. We are not wealthy, and yet we carry fairly significant tax burdens. Many of us struggle to pay rent or mortgages, rising utility costs, and taxes. Current U.S. Census statistics are revealing: over one-third of residents are retired or unemployed, 23 percent live on annual income and benefits under $35,000 and 35 percent under $50,000. State Department of Education reports over a third of students in the Shaker School District are eligible for help with free or reduced meals. The 2015 town budget requests $223,933 for general assistance, often called welfare.

On Tuesday, March 10, we will be asked to approve Warrant Article 3: "Shall the Town vote to raise and appropriate $3,357,250 for the purpose of renovating the Belmont Mill for use as Town Offices, and to authorize the issuance of not more than $2,957,250 of bonds or notes in accordance with the provisions of the Municipal Finance Act (RSA 33) and to authorize the municipal officials to issue and negotiate such bonds or notes and to determine the rate of interest thereon; the balance of funding for the project ($400,000) to come from the Municipal Facilities Capital Reserve for which the selectmen are agents to expend. A 3/5 ballot vote required."
("The Budget Committee recommends $3,357,250 and the Board of Selectmen support this recommendation.")

This article combines a substantial sum for required renovations to the mill, and its use as town offices. I'm not a lawyer, but I do serve on the House Judiciary Committee in Concord. Words matter, and this warrant as I read it could restrict all future use of the mill — exclusively — for town offices. As we know, the space available in the mill is much greater than needed for staff now working from Main Street and the Corner Meeting House. I am concerned that, given more space our town government might grow to fill the void. Can we afford more government? Looking at our demographics, it is difficult to see the dollars and sense for the project as now proposed.

The situation is not unlike early discussions of the Belknap County jail, and the fine-tuning which has focused that project as costs are more realistically considered. I am not against recycling this building that has served Belmont well as a community center since 1998, and much longer as the economic engine that built the town. Several solid ideas, including Mr. Mark Mooney's suggestions for the mill, former bank building and post office, merit discussion and new choices. Selectmen are urged to reconsider all costs including Main Street demolitions, space needed for fewer than 20 employees, and long-term financial impact when property values shift.

I understand we have been wrestling with the issues surrounding the Mill and town offices for many years. Combining critical Mill repairs, renovations and an addition with its use as town offices clouds the question making Article 3 difficult to support.

Rep. Mike Sylvia

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